"This book pointed out a lot of the things that I needed to hear... and sometimes it's hard hearing those things." — Miss Remmers
From Amazon.com...
"Author, talk-show host, columnist, radio and TV personality Karen Salmansohn has been writing advice and mentoring young women for years, encouraging an end to the cycle of less-than-healthy relationship choices that are easy to start, but oh so difficult to break.
Salmansohn’s personal overcoming of difficult relationship traps has become Prince Harming Syndrome a brand new self-help book that mixes Karen’s life experience and the philosophy of Aristotle to create an intimately witty and personal account for women of all ages looking to break their bad habits for good! Karen will teach you how to seek out the 5 essentials for true love NONE OF THEM being what you'd normally think about looking for! For example, one essential is to seek a guy who "values growing." If your man doesn’t value growing, then your relationship won’t survive because a relationship is only as strong as its weakest moments. If your man values growing, he will be open to discussing problems, meeting your needs and evolving so as to make sure problems don’t keep repeating.
Prince Harming Syndrome is a call to action for knowing how to recognize the important difference between Prince Harmings and Prince Charmings by understanding the important difference between "pleasure" and "happiness."'
Thank you, Kristel from Langenscheidt Publishing Group, for sending my a review copy of "Prince Harming Syndrome."
I love the way this book is set up and written — very captivating. I loved the Aristotle references and random quotes. The tone of the novel set it up in such a way that it was extremely easy to 'hear' Karen and relate to her. Technically, there is nothing that I do not like about it.
So why, you ask, am I not more excited about it?
This book pointed out a lot of the things that I needed to hear. And sometimes it's hard hearing those things. I find myself, at this exact moment, in sea of Prince Harmings. This book was so honest and intuitive that it was hard for me to read simply because of where my life is currently at. Because of this, I probably did not enjoy the book as much as I may have if I had my Prince Charming and I was remembering and laughing at all the Prince Harmings I had once dated, but it's a different story when you're still there. Understand? It's confusing, I know.
I haven't decided what I am going to do with this book. Having just finished it, cried a bit, and looking at it — I just don't know. It's not a book that I'll have on my shelves at school because there is some 'language.' But, for my personal shelves — I don't know. There are some great things, helpful things, that I probably need to reread to remind myself about what I am looking for in a guy. There are great places in the book to write down thoughts — which I could do. And I love the Bingo at the end of the book — maybe a photocopy?
I'm all emotionally distraught at this point haha, obviously this book moved me, so whether or not I keep this book is TBA. You know how I love passing books on, and this book, I feel, is one that many women in my predicament should read. Yes, despite how hard it was for me hearing/reading these things — it was necessary. And because of this, I feel that I should recommend this book to all women who have had their share of Prince Harmings (but you may have to find your own copy haha). It's an honest book — and that's its purpose.
Favorite Quotes:
"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering, one must not love. But then, one suffers from not loving. Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be happy one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness" (59).
"You cannot control much of what happens in life. Your life is a lively fusion of free will merged with destiny" (73).
The Bingo cards on page 186-7.